No not houses..not yet at least. :)
Chad and I are moving to separate new blogs!! :)
For explanations as to why...Check 'em out!
Alyssa
Chad
See ya'll on the other side...
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Monday, May 3, 2010
Time - not the kind in a bottle. (chad)
It was brought to Alyssa and I's attention that since we share a blog, it is rather difficult to identify who is actually writing each entry - so I figure I'll put my name in the title and that should clear things up.
That old adage, time flies when you're having fun, couldn't be any more true than right now. The newly assembled Duncan clan (later referred to as ACK (Alyssa, Chad, Kiwi)) has a myriad of events, mostly recurring, all week long. We were talking last night about how different our lives are from just a year ago, mainly how much "fuller" our time is and how important quality time has become. When we first started talking / dating, our time was relatively "free." I spent 5-6 nights a week in the woodshop, talked with Alyssa until late at night almost every night, and worked 50 hours a week. I had a few friends that I would hang out with and I wasn't involved with Meridian Point's Education Ministry, Safety and Security Ministry, or the Pre-school Team. Now I'm lucky to see the shop twice a month (which really makes productivity an issue). There are so many wonderful things going on that it just sometimes busy instead of being fun :/ . Between golf and volleyball, Adult Bible Courses (ABCs), dinner with friends, trying to get to the shop once a week, running around with all the church kids 2 Sundays a month....and the most important activity of all....spending time with my wife.....I think I need to take a step back, breathe deeply, and "relax and enjoy the ride."
Most people see the relaxed and stoic Chad - not the Chad who panics when thinking about buying a house or a car. Alyssa gets the privilege of seeing them both and she is so caring that I'm sure she assumes I can do everything and worry about nothing. I worry. Sometimes I worry more than I should. Being a provider and trying to balance all the spinning plates is difficult sometimes, but to be honest, I feel like I give it a pretty good run every day. God knows EXACTLY how much I can take before I crumble.
Moral of the story: Life is great, time is short, and God is in charge of everything.
That old adage, time flies when you're having fun, couldn't be any more true than right now. The newly assembled Duncan clan (later referred to as ACK (Alyssa, Chad, Kiwi)) has a myriad of events, mostly recurring, all week long. We were talking last night about how different our lives are from just a year ago, mainly how much "fuller" our time is and how important quality time has become. When we first started talking / dating, our time was relatively "free." I spent 5-6 nights a week in the woodshop, talked with Alyssa until late at night almost every night, and worked 50 hours a week. I had a few friends that I would hang out with and I wasn't involved with Meridian Point's Education Ministry, Safety and Security Ministry, or the Pre-school Team. Now I'm lucky to see the shop twice a month (which really makes productivity an issue). There are so many wonderful things going on that it just sometimes busy instead of being fun :/ . Between golf and volleyball, Adult Bible Courses (ABCs), dinner with friends, trying to get to the shop once a week, running around with all the church kids 2 Sundays a month....and the most important activity of all....spending time with my wife.....I think I need to take a step back, breathe deeply, and "relax and enjoy the ride."
Most people see the relaxed and stoic Chad - not the Chad who panics when thinking about buying a house or a car. Alyssa gets the privilege of seeing them both and she is so caring that I'm sure she assumes I can do everything and worry about nothing. I worry. Sometimes I worry more than I should. Being a provider and trying to balance all the spinning plates is difficult sometimes, but to be honest, I feel like I give it a pretty good run every day. God knows EXACTLY how much I can take before I crumble.
Moral of the story: Life is great, time is short, and God is in charge of everything.
Trust
"We've each come from a past that's as long as our arms. But look at all that we've overcome. Look where we are now. Just trust me."
Qualities it takes to overcome all my issues:
Patience
Grace
Kindness
Gentleness
Tenderness
Hope
Faith
Strength
Tough-Skinned
Is my husband all of these things?? No.
Is my husband everything I ever hoped for? No.
Is my husband everything I thought I didn't deserve? No.
HE'S MORE.
While I struggle to adjust to work schedules, a social calendar, making dinner, grocery shopping for two, cleaning house, giving him space so that when he gets home he can participate in some of his hobbies rather than just work and what I want to do...he wraps his arms around me and guides me along with the ease of a husband of 20 years. He knows I struggle with my work sometimes. He knows I am constantly trying to further my relationship with God but sometimes I still get angry, bitter, annoyed, and anxious. He sees me trying and praises me for it. He never complains when I don't cook dinner and when the house isn't spotless even though I've got the time. Instead he comes home and asks me how my day was and puts his own frustrations and headache aside to hear me ramble on for hours about all I did.
So when he asked me last night "Do you trust me?" when it came to a situation that I'd been struggling with...how could I look at that man in the eyes and say, "Yes but..." Of course I trust him. HE just had to remind me that by worrying, I wasn't.
So I turn to The Word this morning in an effort to rid myself of these "fears." My husband is not anyone I have ever dealt with before. He is not any of the atrocities that have been committed against me. He is my husband, my help-mate, my partner...He is the one person that knows my heart. So I have a wonderful husband and a merciful God. This wife has some work to do to show these two how thankful she is. Because I'm not doing a good job of it so far.
Qualities it takes to overcome all my issues:
Patience
Grace
Kindness
Gentleness
Tenderness
Hope
Faith
Strength
Tough-Skinned
Is my husband all of these things?? No.
Is my husband everything I ever hoped for? No.
Is my husband everything I thought I didn't deserve? No.
HE'S MORE.
While I struggle to adjust to work schedules, a social calendar, making dinner, grocery shopping for two, cleaning house, giving him space so that when he gets home he can participate in some of his hobbies rather than just work and what I want to do...he wraps his arms around me and guides me along with the ease of a husband of 20 years. He knows I struggle with my work sometimes. He knows I am constantly trying to further my relationship with God but sometimes I still get angry, bitter, annoyed, and anxious. He sees me trying and praises me for it. He never complains when I don't cook dinner and when the house isn't spotless even though I've got the time. Instead he comes home and asks me how my day was and puts his own frustrations and headache aside to hear me ramble on for hours about all I did.
So when he asked me last night "Do you trust me?" when it came to a situation that I'd been struggling with...how could I look at that man in the eyes and say, "Yes but..." Of course I trust him. HE just had to remind me that by worrying, I wasn't.
So I turn to The Word this morning in an effort to rid myself of these "fears." My husband is not anyone I have ever dealt with before. He is not any of the atrocities that have been committed against me. He is my husband, my help-mate, my partner...He is the one person that knows my heart. So I have a wonderful husband and a merciful God. This wife has some work to do to show these two how thankful she is. Because I'm not doing a good job of it so far.
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